Having low self worth is something that is easy to hide in many ways, and I’ve found amazing and brilliant men and women I’ve met at conferences or through friends that confide they don’t really have it all together. We feel like the biggest critic of ourselves is ourselves, and while on the outside we have the confidence to continue to be successful, the inside is screaming this isn’t really you.
While this is often a recurring thought when it comes to lack of self worth, I’ve found that the opposite is actually true. Your negative thoughts aren’t really you. The time you shone at a speaking gig or made a table full of acquaintances laugh, that was you.
The tiny little part that doubts every little thing you do is a part of you, but doesn’t represent your whole being.
I know that gets a little meta, but it’s a revolutionary thought if you take the time to really think about it. That shift in perspective is what has helped me continue to improve my own opinion of my self worth and influences how I interact with people. I may have anxiety or nervousness getting up on a stage, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have the power to not let it take over.
Self worth is a funny thing. I know that I love who I am as a person; I can guess (for the most part) what my closest friends and loved ones would say about me if they got the chance. But it’s those little slivers of doubt that creep in the pauses between thinking I know what I’m doing that sometimes outweigh everything positive that has come before it.
So, back to the main question of this post. Is it possible to improve your self worth?
I certainly think so. It starts by recognizing that brillant, funny, and smart person you are on most days and choosing to live with that version of yourself, instead of letting the doubt slivers take over. It continues with recognizing that even the most intelligent, admirable people you know have valleys in their journey of self growth and may even have the same negative thoughts you do.
It ends with realizing that even though you aren’t perfect, the world isn’t either. Crooked floorboards still hold our weight; a 30-second phone call from across the world is better than nothing at all. Take the moments of beauty we all experience each day and use them as inspiration for recognizing your own magnificence.